In many cases, the signs that your relationship is heading towards divorce may not be as obvious as you think. Some people might assume that fighting is the only symptom of a relationship that’s doomed to end. However, the truth is that there are many other signs that may be more surprising than you realize. Take a look at some of the signs that your marriage may be headed for a divorce.
You’re Only Focused On Your Kids
While your children should be an undoubtedly important part of your relationship dynamic, that shouldn’t be the center of your relationship. It’s important that you are also focusing on yourself as a couple. Often parents who are only focused on their kids find themselves fighting for custody several years down the road.
If you find yourself only focusing on your kids in the relationship and not on your relationship itself, then you should seriously consider prioritizing time together as a couple.
You Don’t Talk Anymore
One of the biggest signs of a doomed relationship is lack of communication. If you don’t talk anymore, then it’s only a matter of time until you hardly know each other anymore. Take the time to communicate every single day, even if it’s just about the weather.
Good communication is about taking the time to care about what’s going on in the other person’s life. Besides just speaking to your spouse, you should also know how to listen to your spouse. Good communication is a give and take on a day-to-day basis.
You Spend More Time With Your Friends
If you’re given a choice to hang out with your friends or your spouse, and you choose your friends, then it’s obvious where your priorities are. That’s not to say that you should have to spend all of your waking time with your spouse. Time apart is an important part of being happy together.
However, when your time apart outweighs your time together, then you’ve got a serious problem on your hands. If you’re not interested in experiencing things with your spouse, then you should start asking yourself why you’re married in the first place.
You Don’t Care Anymore
Most people have heard the saying, “Marriage is a lot of work.” However, it’s often easier said than done. If you’ve gotten to the point where you don’t even care if your marriage is working or not, then it’s an indication that things have probably fizzled out.
Every marriage hits tough spots here and there. But that doesn’t mean you have to give up. People who love each other dust themselves off and get up and try again. People who aren’t willing to put in the work aren’t going to save anything.