The pandemic has changed a lot in our lives, including our home life. It’s likely that since the first lockdown came in 2020, you’ve both been living and working together under one roof. This has forced many people to spend more time in each other’s company than they have ever done before. Unfortunately, when this happens, cracks can begin to appear.
According to research by divorce solicitors Simpson Millar, the stresses of living through a global pandemic in close proximity have caused many married couples to rethink their vows. With this in mind, what are some of the ways that you can keep your marriage healthy and on track now and post-pandemic?
Maintaining a routine
Although having a set routine can be monotonous, why not switch it up and add a regular date night or day to your usual schedule? You don’t have to spend a large amount of money to have a good time together. This could be to regularly schedule in a movie night at home where you drag your duvet onto the sofa and snuggle down together, or simply a coffee date in town!
Going outside and planning activities together
Let’s face it, with most people still working from home, it’s likely that you’re barely spending any time outside at the minute. A simple walk around town or where you live, can give you both time away from your desks and computers to talk about other things instead. Make a rule about not speaking about your working day and instead, ask each other what’s on your mind and have a good check in with your significant other. You may be surprised as to what’s on their mind at the moment!
Have a strong support system
Even though your husband or wife might be your best friend, it’s important to maintain as strong support system away from your household. It helps to alleviate some of the pressure on the other, especially if you regularly offload your emotions onto them. Having friends and family that you can speak to, whether that’s on the phone, Zoom or in person, can help to keep your relationship healthy.
Staying present during any time of your marriage is crucial. Whether you’ve spent months on end together or not, being present, giving time and listening are key to maintaining a healthy and fruitful relationship. This could mean putting your phones away as you enjoy dinner together or making sure you finish your working day on time and switch off, all of these things can make the world of difference.
Be intentional with the time you spend together
Whatever you do, don’t frivolously waste the time you have together. If you have children, it can be easy for couples to neglect each other, as the focus is likely to be on them. Once you’ve popped them to bed, why not light some candles and create your very own date night. You could cook a meal together, play a board game or even just sit and chat.